ALT, CTRL, DEL YOUR WAY TO HAPPINESS

By Vincent Van Ross

Today, we live in the computer age. It is but obvious that computers hold the key to almost everything in our lives.

But, who could have thought that computers would one day hold the keys to our happiness as well? Believe it or not, there is reason to believe that computers hold the keys to our happiness. According to a new theory, there are three keys to happiness and you will find all of them on the computer keyboard. All of us are familiar with these three keys. The keys are: CTRL (Control), ALT (Alternative) and DEL (Delete).

To begin with, the CPU or the Central Processing Unit of a computer is similar to that of our brain.

We owe most of our problems to our reluctance or inability to control ourselves in certain situations.

If we resolve to control our emotions—particularly anger—we could be in control of most situations. Decisions taken in a fit of anger are always disastrous. That is the time to control ourselves and our anger. When we encounter a sticky situation, we must remember that our brain is like the computer.

There is a `Control' key in our brain just as there is one in the computer. All we need to do is to press the CTRL button when we are angry. So and everything would be all right if we take the decisions when we are at peace and are able to think with a cool head. There are times when things get stuck.

There are times when we hit an impasse or roadblock. In such a situation, it may not be possible to push ahead on the same track. That is the time to start looking for a detour. That is the time to find a way around the problem. That is the time to look for an alternative route. In such situations the ALT (Alternative) key holds the solution to the problem. At times, we are weighed down too many problems. That causes tension. When that happens, all we need to do is to identify the problems that are causing tension. Just press the DEL key and delete the problems causing tension and we would be back on track to happiness. As I said, we live in the computer age.



If we learn to use the ALT+CTRL+DEL keys sensibly, we can chart our way to HAPPINESS! 

Green thing...

 Please read till the end.

Checking out at the store, the young cashier suggested to the older woman that she should bring her own shopping bags because plastic bags weren't good for the environment. The woman apologized and explained, "We didn't have this green thing back in my earlier days." The cashier responded, "That's our problem today. Your generation did not care enough to save our environment for future generations." She was right -- our generation didn't have the green thing in its day.

Back then, we returned milk bottles, pop bottles and beer bottles to the store. The store sent them back to the plant to be washed and sterilized and refilled, so they could use the same bottles over and over. Yes, they really were recycling. We refilled writing pens with ink instead of buying a new pen; and we replaced the razor blades in a razor instead of throwing away the whole razor just because the blade got dull. But, we didn't have the green thing back in our day.


We walked up the stairs, because we didn't have an escalator in every shop and office building. We walked to the grocery store and didn't climb into a 300-horsepower machine every time we had to go two blocks. But, she was right. We didn't have the green thing in our day.

 
Back then, we washed the baby's nappies because we didn't have the throw-away kind. We dried clothes on a line, not in an 'energy gobbling machine burning up 220 volts;' wind and solar power really did dry our clothes back in our early days. Kids got hand-me-down clothes from their brothers or sisters, not always brand-new clothing. But, that young lady is right. We didn't have the green thing back in our day.

 
Back then, we had one TV, or radio, in the house -- not a TV in every room. And, the TV had a small screen the size of a handkerchief (remember them?), not a screen the size of the county of Yorkshire. In the kitchen, we blended and stirred by hand because we didn't have electric machines to do everything for us. When we packaged a fragile item to send in the post, we used wadded up old newspapers to cushion it, not Styrofoam or plastic bubble wrap. Back then, we didn't fire up an engine and burn petrol just to cut the lawn. We used a push mower that ran on human power. We exercised by working so we didn't need to go to a health club to run on treadmills that operate on electricity. But, she's right. We didn't have the green thing back then.

 
We drank water from a fountain or a tap when we were thirsty instead of demanding a plastic bottle flown in from another country. We accepted that a lot of food was seasonal and didn’t expect that to be bucked by flying it thousands of air miles around the world. We actually cooked food that didn’t come out of a packet, tin or plastic wrap and we could even wash our own vegetables and chop our own salad. But, we didn't have the green thing back then.

 
Back then, people took the tram or a bus, and kids rode their bikes to school or walked instead of turning their mothers into a 24-hour taxi service. We had one electrical outlet in a room, not an entire bank of sockets to power a dozen appliances. And we didn't need a computerized gadget to receive a signal beamed from satellites 2,000 miles out in space in order to find the nearest pizza joint. But, isn't it said the current generation laments how wasteful we old folks were just because we didn't have the green thing back then????

Tips on Public Speaking...

Here are some important public speaking tips to help you develop your skills and become far more effective as a public speaker.

•Ensure your speech will be captivating to your audience as well as worth their time and attention. Videotape your presentation and analyse it. Emphasize your strong points during your presentation.

•Present the desired image to your audience. Be solemn if your topic is serious. Appear relaxed, even if you feel nervous. Remember, you don’t look as nervous as you feel.

•Establish rapport with your audience. If a microphone is available, adjust and adapt your voice accordingly.

•Maintain sincere eye contact with your audience. If what you have prepared is obviously not getting across to your audience, change your strategy mid-stream if you are well prepared to do so.

•Allow yourself and your audience a little time to reflect and think.

•Check out the location ahead of time to ensure seating arrangements for audience, whiteboard, blackboard, lighting, location of projection screen, sound system, etc. are suitable for your presentation.

•Tell audience ahead of time that you will be giving out an outline of your presentation so that they will not waste time taking unnecessary notes during your presentation.

•Humour: Tell jokes if you’re good at telling joke. If you aren’t good, it is best to leave the jokes behind. There is nothing worse than a punch line that has no punch.

•Tell stories: Stories make you a real person not just a deliverer of information. Use personal experiences to bring your material to life. No matter how dry your material is, you can always find a way to humanise it. Keep audience interested throughout your entire presentation. Remember that an interesting speech makes time fly, but a boring speech is always too long to endure even if the presentation time is the same.

•Using Public Speaking Environment Try not to get stuck in one place. Use all the space that is available to you. If your space is confined (say a meeting room or even presenting at a table) use stronger body language to convey your message.

•Mistakes are all right. Recovering from mistakes makes you appear more human. Good recovery puts your audience at ease they identify with you more. 

HOW TO LOVE GOD

To love God in the most practical way
 is to love our fellow beings

If we feel for others in the same way
as we feel for our own dear ones,

We are Loving God.

If, instead of seeing faults in others,
we look in ourselves,

We are loving God. 

If, instead of robbing others to help ourselves,
we rob ourselves to help others,

We are Loving God.

If we suffer in the sufferings of others and
feel happy in the happiness of others,

We are Loving God.

If, instead of worrying over our own misfortunes,
we think of ourselves more fortunate than many, many others,

We are Loving God. 

If you endure our lot with patience and contentment,
accepting as His Will 

We are Loving God. 

If, we understand and feel that the
greatest act of devotion and worship to
God is not to hurt or harm any of His beings, 

We are Loving God.

To love God as He ought to be loved, we must live for God and die for God, knowing that the goal of life is to

Love God and find Him as our own self.

-- Avatar Meher Baba

Expectations

      
A family of tortoise went on a picnic.

They packed food and set out to a place they had selected behind the hills. When they reached the spot, they unpacked their picnic basket. They realized they had forgotten to bring salt. Food without salt is tasteless. They had a conference to decide who should go back and get salt. After a lot of discussion, the youngest tortoise was chosen, as he was faster than the others. The youngest objected on the ground that before he could come back the others might eat the snacks. But they assured him they would wait for him to come back with salt.

Six months passed, but the youngest tortoise did not turn up. So the rest of the family decided to open the basket and eat the snacks. When they opened the snack basket, the little tortoise jumped out of the bushes and screamed, Look, I knew you would not wait till I came back. For six months I have been hiding in these bushes to make sure you would not eat without me. Now my suspicion has been confirmed, and I am not going to get the salt.

Some of us are exactly like our suspicious tortoise: we waste our own time waiting for people to live up to our expectations. Instead of doing the right thing ourselves, we wait for others to act in ways we expect them to. We waste our time waiting for others to live according to our expectations......

Woman is in the lap of A, B, C.....

A says
Woman is attractive flower
B says
Woman is beautiful gift
C says
Woman is great source of comfort
D says
woman has a sweet dialect
E says
Eastern or western, woman is the worthy
F says
woman is central figure of family
G says
woman always glitters with the rays of her partner
H says
woman has holy spirits
I says
woman has basic institution in her lap
J says
woman is a full of joy
K says
woman is head of kisses
L says
woman is lovely thing
M says
woman is symbol of modesty
N says
nails increase the beauty of woman
O says
woman is an pretty ornament
P says
woman is princess
Q says
woman is queen
R says
woman is rare gift
S says
woman is a main source of survival the human being
T says
woman has true spirits of love
U says
woman is an peaceful umbrella
V says
woman is valley of love
W says
woman is wafer
X says
woman has sweet kisses

Y says
woman is your jewellary
z says
woman has great zeal

ENGLISH - A POWERFUL LANGUAGE

Professor Ernest Brennecke of Columbia University is credited with inventing a sentence that can be made to have eight different meanings by placing ONE WORD in all possible positions in the sentence: "I hit him in the eye yesterday."


1. ONLY I hit him in the eye yesterday. (No one else did.)
2. I ONLY hit him in the eye yesterday. (Did not slap him.)
3. I hit ONLY him in the eye yesterday. (I did not hit others.)
4. I hit him ONLY in the eye yesterday. (I did not hit outside the eye.)
5. I hit him in ONLY the eye yesterday. (Not other organs.)
6. I hit him in the ONLY eye yesterday. (He doesn't have another eye...)
7. I hit him in the eye ONLY yesterday. (Not today.)
8. I hit him in the eye yesterday ONLY. (Did not wait for today.)

This is why it is important to be precise!

HOW THE MAGICIANS CHEAT US. HAVE A LOOK.

Self Responsibility

There are certain laws which are involved in our actions and interactions. They are not human laws requiring lawyers to interpret or the police to enforce. They are natural laws which are constantly operating in every relationship. They are often called the Laws of Karma (action): briefly described by the saying, "As you sow, so you shall reap", described by Isaac Newton as the Laws of Motion i.e. for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. The Laws of Karma remind us that whatever quality of energy we give out, we get back. This might not be exactly an eye for an eye, but if we give happiness to someone, it will come back to us; if we give pain or sorrow, it will come back, perhaps not today or tomorrow, but at some time in the future.

Most of us are conditioned by the idea that we are responsible for some of our actions, but not all of them. For example, we would consider ourselves responsible for the actions which bring our colleagues together for a task at work but would not consider ourselves responsible for the argument we have with a neighbour. We would consider ourselves responsible for driving our family safely to their holiday destination, but if we nearly have an accident because we were trying to get there quickly we might consider the other driver responsible for nearly causing the accident. If we sustain our family through our own enterprise and professional efforts we would take the credit, but if we turned to a life of crime to clothe and feed ourselves we might blame the inequalities of society or the years of a difficult childhood.

Through spirituality, we are reminded of the unchangeable laws of cause and effect, which awakens our awareness of our true responsibility for each and every action that we perform.

Because most of us have forgotten the principle of karmic returns, we have learned to avoid taking responsibility for many of our actions. We fail to see the impact of our actions upon others and we fail to see that the real meaning of responsibility is our 'ability to respond'. Life can be seen as a series of responses which we each create in our interactions with other people and events. As is the quality of our ability to respond (energy given), so will be the quality of the return (energy received). The Laws of Karma also serve to remind us that our circumstances and our personality today are the result of what we thought and did yesterday, last month, last year, perhaps in our last birth. Many people do not like this idea or find it difficult to accept because most of us have been taught that our destiny lies in someone Else's hands or in the hands of fate or luck, about which we can do nothing. Karma is also sometimes referred to as the Law of Reciprocity. It is a law which teaches us that there is no such thing as luck and that whatever happens to us today is the result of our benevolent (positive) or negative actions in the past. If you spend a few moments reflecting on events in your life, without judgmental or emotional, you will begin to see connections between actions and results, causes and effects. When you see how all effects have their causes, you will then be convinced that this universal law is at work in your life at all times.

DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON??

During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?"


I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It depends. Is that your husband?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.


Here's the answer.


EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies.

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love... People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened to you.

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.


Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.


But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could.

And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.


SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the __expression "the labour of love" Because it takes time, effort and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.


Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable. ..You can "make" love.

Love in marriage is indeed a "decision".... Not just a feeling..

Remember this always


"God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go."